The deepest of all human needs is to love and be loved, but the thing that keeps us from finding it is fear of rejection. However, in holding back we deprive ourselves of the thing we want most. C.S. Lewis had to come to terms with this himself. He said: ‘To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to be sure of keeping your heart intact, you must give your heart to no one. Wrap it carefully around with hobbies and little luxuries, avoid all entanglements. Lock it up safely in the casket of your selfishness. And in that casket, safe, dark, motionless, airless, it will not change, it will not be broken. It will become unbreakable, impenetrable and irredeemable. The only place outside of heaven where you can be perfectly safe from the dangers of love is hell.’